Yogis are often stereotyped as being “new-agey.” I guess stereotypes often have at least a kernel of truth to them. I am not too proud to admit that I’ve read my fair share of new age, self-help tomes. But out of it all one message has stuck with me; one I find myself coming back to again and again:
“Those who are certain of the outcome can afford to wait and wait without anxiety.” – A Course in Miracles
This, of course, implies a certain level of faith; faith that the universe (or God, or whatever it is you believe in) will deliver what you need. On its own schedule, not yours. In other words, you get what you need when you’re supposed to get it, not necessarily what you want when you want it (with apologies to Veruca Salt).
As someone who never really believed in God – I’d even go so far as to call myself a recovering atheist – this idea initially required a lot of me. But still, it resonated. It just makes sense to me for a variety of reasons. On a practical level, what’s the alternative? Assuming the worst and then using everything that happens that sucks to validate your assumptions? Not that I’m speaking from personal experience, of course….
On a more metaphysical level, I have come to believe that thoughts, feelings and emotions have energy. I’m not talking about “The Secret” hooey (bought it, never read it, still embarrassed about spending money on it). It’s really as simple as words having power, particularly when they are directed at yourself. So when someone feels like a rock star, they are often treated like one. Conversely, when someone feels like a shit sandwich, they usually get treated like one. You get back what you put out into the world.
My friend K (you know who you are) says with a fairly high level of frequency how awesome she is. Before I knew her as well as I do now, I thought this was mere bravado; that her words were masking a deeper insecurity. I was probably only projecting my own neurosis on her, though, because I’ve come to believe that K’s affirmations are absolutely authentic. And you know what? That woman manifests what she wants in life in a way that is pretty dang impressive. More than that, she is able to wait without anxiety because she feels confident in her ability to work in tandem with the universe to get what she needs; that it will all work out as it should.
This makes me think of another quote I love, quite similar to the one from A Course in Miracles:
“Everything will work out in the end. If it hasn’t worked out yet, it’s not the end.”
These words have been attributed to everyone from John Lennon to Paulo Coehlo. My favorite source is the adorable Dev Patel in The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel. But I digress.
I do truly believe that our thoughts, the “stories” we all tell ourselves, have a great deal of power. And I believe, as well, in challenging the stories that don’t serve us – the “I suck” or “I’ll never…” stories. Put positive thoughts and energy out into the ether and they come back to you.
The place I get stuck, though, is from rewriting the story to genuinely believing it; to having faith and waiting without anxiety. But I’m going to try a new practice of at least changing the story verbally and in my internal monologue; I’ll be faking it until I make it.
More importantly, I ‘ll be working on cultivating a little faith; faith that what I have right now is exactly what I need and that things are working out the way they are supposed to, if not exactly on my timetable.
Change the story and have some faith. That’s my practice this week. What’s yours?